"They'll always come first... I want to be first. I know that's selfish, and maybe unattainable, and maybe shallow. But I just want to come first with someone. If that's wrong of me, so be it. I'll be wrong."
This is an excerpt from one of the Sookie Stackhouse books.
I can think this way. Of the few places where I can be first without feeling guilty, this is an important one. I could not live with being second to: a job, a hobby, other family/friends, a religion, a country, a cause. And really, this may be shallow and selfish, but I am not the kind of person who could settle so benignly for second place. I can't be the pillar without knowing that I have an equally supportive pillar for me.
I wonder what that says about me. And I can't even say with conviction that I rightly know how it would feel to think differently. It's too much a part of me.
So, any thoughts and personal insight?
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2 comments:
I can totally understand where Sookie is coming from. Not in the extreme and controlling "me first!" way but you want to feel important in your partner's life.
I think that's the idea most people have of marriage anyway, right? Our society pushes the belief that we are meant to be with one person, our soulmate if you will. That person is supposed to complete us. I don't know how much I necessarily believe that another person is supposed to make you whole but I do believe human beings were not designed to be alone. I think it's important to have someone in your life that puts you before everyone else and vice versa. Whether that person is your spouse is debatable. Friends and other family members are important relationships to have as well.
Yeah, it doesn't really have to be marriage. In some ways, I think marriage ruins relationships. I believe that people can spend their whole lives together and never get married. I also think that you don't really need a guy to make you happy. Like Kari said, it can be another bond and relationship too. Still, I would like to be important to someone out there.
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